The 3-3-3 Rule for Adopting a Dog
The 3 days – 3 weeks – 3 months rule is a general guideline. Every dog is unique and will adjust differently. Give your dog space and allow them to go at their own pace.
The First 3 Days…
Everything is new
“Where am I? Am I safe? What do I do? I am scared…”
Provide calm
Quiet environment. Reliable routine & schedule your dog can depend on. Don't pressure them during this stage.
May not eat or potty
Don't worry if your new dog is too scared to eat, drink, or potty for the first day or so.
This Is Vital
Do Not Integrate With Resident Pets / Kids
Keep separate except for dog walks (2 dogs need 2 handlers on parallel walks — google how to do this properly). Do NOT allow resident pets or kids to approach a restrained (leash/crate) newbie inside the home for the first few days.
The First 3 Weeks…
Feeling safe
Personality peeking out. Comfort shown as they start to relate, explore, and play.
Settling in
Learning routine. Eating and potty-ing like a champ. May start testing some boundaries. Behavior challenges may surface.
Keep a leash on
Attach a leash & leave it on your dog, dragging (without you holding it), for quick control as they begin to roam in the home and fenced yard.
Slowly Integrate Resident Pets / Kids
Dog walks only, 5+ days — this is the dogs doing calm, guided “work” to establish a relationship prior to excited play. Then integrate play and stop on a good note: play 30 seconds, STOP. Later, play 1 minute, STOP. Build up several short sessions, then longer ones.
The First 3 Months…
I feel totally safe!
This is great! Smiles! Play! Goofy-positioned naps!
This is a home!
I am confident! I know what to do! I've learned the rules and (mostly) obey them! I love my people and my people love me!
Being themselves!
True personality is showing. You will be aware of their likes and dislikes, skills, and training needs.
Constantly Train!
Every walk is training. Every car ride, meal, playtime. Every interaction you have with your dog. Be consistent. Be kind. Dogs love to learn, work, sniff, play, exercise, and be goodest boys and girls. They aim to please. Love them… lots!